Random Thoughts

[Varun]

That means , your friend love your girlfriend and you want to kill him ? right ?

They want to kill me (two of 'em). She had to end it before it began due to their crazy antics. Now I wish I could kill them. But I'm not insane.

 

[Sulaiman7]

They want to kill me (two of 'em). She had to end it before it began due to their crazy antics. Now I wish I could kill them. But I'm not insane.

Take her and run away , maybe to another country ....

 

[cerande]

They want to kill me (two of 'em). She had to end it before it began due to their crazy antics. Now I wish I could kill them. But I'm not insane.

You have to be sane.No girl is worth it.

 

[Varun]

Take her and run away , maybe to another country ....

Perhaps it would be better if you don't advice me.

 

[cerande]

From what I understand,these guys used to be your friends.If that's indeed the case,they are jerks .Stay as away from them as possible..No person calling you a friend would do this to you.

 

[Varun]

You're reading my conversation with User Modi? If not, better do it. I can't write it here again.

 

[cerande]

Reading it now..

 

[Varun]

Pretty sure you see it only in soap operas. Still can't believe it isn't one.

 

[cerande]

I think I have read enough to understand what you are going through,Varun.Heck,it has happened to me too(except the fighting part).You see I also had a huge crush on this one girl for the last 6-7 years or so.I changed my school so couldn't act on those feelings.
To be honest,I feel now,that it was just an attraction.The feelings took a little time to vanish,but I can say this to you that,I didn't love her.Infact,at your age(we are of same age),there is a very little possibility of you actually falling in love.It most likely is just mutual attraction.

But,from what you state and if you do actually love her,then your "friends" or these external factors shouldn't affect you one bit.What matters is that it is a 2 way street.Your girlfriend is an emotional person and she is disturbed by these fights but you ought to explain to her privately that it is actually her who matters.She should act on the relationship if she feels like it,not what the others (read your other 2 friends) think!
But proceed these emotional provinces with caution,you have said(and truly) so that you could move on,but could she?She has tried to take her own life once and chances are,she just might do it again.To entirely convince her,are you convinced you are ready for such a big commitment?

On the parents' front,do not tell them.I know Indian parents and it might make things worse.If you do think of telling them,Just absolutely dont tell them before the boards.

Last,your life is more important than anybody's.Take care and best of luck.

 

[Varun]

Thanks. That'd help. She wouldn't attempt a suicide again. I don't think so. I've made her promise she won't. We were all very immature back then. We aren't now.

It could be just mutual attraction, but at least we could try and understand what it is. That's why you date (other than just having sex, which only douchebags do). I don't want to regret later in life that we didn't even kerplucking try.

To entirely convince her,are you convinced you are ready for such a big commitment?

Yeah, I am. I've led a very irresponsible life in the last two years (in flow with planetcricket?) and now I'm ready to be responsible and commited.

 

[cerande]

Thanks. That'd help. She wouldn't attempt a suicide again. I don't think so. I've made her promise she won't. We were all very immature back then. We aren't now.

It could be just mutual attraction, but at least we could try and understand what it is. That's why you date (other than just having sex, which only douchebags do). I don't want to regret later in life that we didn't even kerplucking try.



Yeah, I am. I've led a very irresponsible life in the last two years (in flow with planetcricket?) and now I'm ready to be responsible and commited.

You actually do seem mature.If you are indeed ready,you really should not hold back.Because as you said,you should at least try.You have to try.

 

[Varun]

my friend #1 - okay, it's alright if it is Varun, but I won't eat anything for a while now.

my friend #2 - okay, it's alright if it is Varun. Then calls me and says I'm an asshole and she doesn't like me.

me - uh, why we fought three years ago? Why do I explain again and again? Why can't I understand the feelings of the other two? Because you f*cking like me and not them.

 

[treva]

Mate, just go for it. You can't give up on a girl just because some prick(s) will hate you for it. I don't know if they are friends of yours, but they're not really friends if they want to 'kill you' over a girl.

You don't want to live life with regrets.

 

[Varun]

I don't, I don't, I don't. I'm talking to her on text right now, and she says she can't see her friends hurt, which unfortunately are those two.

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I don't know. I'd get tired of this soap opera eventually. She says she can't make their life hell for me. C'mon, would I be living in a heaven?

 

[Gurjot95]

Well, let's be honest Varun. If she really loves you, she wouldn't leave you irrespective of the fact that it would make her friends hurt or not. I mean you both know you love each other so your friends have to understand or at least you both should have talk with them. Tell your girl to say to others that she wants to be with you so they need to manage it. I know it's easier said than done but I have seen this situation where a friend of mine tried to commit suicide because one of the boy tried to force her to be in relationship. Had a hell a lot of talk with her but she finally understood and now she's happy with her lover which is also a friend of mine. Don't expect things to go easy so soon, relax and talk till the situation gets better. It's probably high time that she needs you and grab this opportunity dude!