Sorry to say this, but all the stuff on your phone is probably toast. A few months ago when I was flying back from India I made the mistake of turning off my phone. When I turned it back on it showed the connect to iTunes sign. And of course iTunes did not recognize it. After a lot of massaging I was finally able to get the phone to restore but lost pretty much everything on it that I hadn't backed up (phone numbers, photos, music, etc.).
iTunes is honestly the shittiest piece of software I've had forced down my throat. For all the iPhone's benefits in usability, iTunes makes the the thing completely ridiculous to synchronize. In fact, I've given up on synchronizing my iPod Touch with a computer any more because every time I connect it, it wants me to set it up as a new device (thus erasing everything).
hmm, I don't know why that keeps happening. I haven't had any of those issues with iTunes, granted I have worked mostly on a mac for the last ~2 years or so. But even before that...it has generally been OK.
I wish iOS devices could be a just a little more independent now. I think these days they are replacing computers more and more, and if we were able to manage music and photos and stuff directly on the device, it would be so much better. I hate syncing...If I want to download a song off a website, or download a youtube video I should be able to do it right on the iPhone/iPad. Going on my computer, importing it to itunes, syncing... it is just such a clunky process.
I think I'd prefer feeling like I'm holding an actual steering wheel
How so? It takes a while for what you do with the wheel to be reflected on the screen? I wouldn't think you would find that problem with wheels...